Not who you are.... but how you are. Great article.
"You haven't really lived until you've done something for someone who can never repay you."
We know that fear and anxiety are processed in the same part of the brain as physical pain, and that emotional pain actually shares some of the same neural pathways with physical pain. That’s why we talk about profound grief or panic “hurting” – it physically impacts our bodies.
Studies have shown that people who lack expertise in some area of knowledge often have a cognitive bias that prevents them from realizing that they lack expertise. As psychologist David Dunning puts it in an op-ed for Politico, “The knowledge and intelligence that are required to be good at a task are often the same qualities needed to recognize that one is not good at that task — and if one lacks such knowledge and intelligence, one remains ignorant that one is not good at the task. This includes political judgment.” Essentially, they’re not smart enough to realize they’re dumb.
Maybe a relationship is just two idiots who don't know a damn thing except the fact that they're willing to figure it out together
Relationships fail because people take their own insecurities and try to twist them into their partner's flaws
People have a habit of inventing frictions they will believe wholeheartedly in order to ignore the truth they cannot accept.
Couples who solely engage in individual therapy have an extremely high rate of divorce. Work together to stay together.
Boundaries must be explicitly stated. Want people to respect your boundaries? Explain to them where the line is.