Not who you are.... but how you are. Great article.
"You haven't really lived until you've done something for someone who can never repay you."
Studies have shown that people who lack expertise in some area of knowledge often have a cognitive bias that prevents them from realizing that they lack expertise. As psychologist David Dunning puts it in an op-ed for Politico, “The knowledge and intelligence that are required to be good at a task are often the same qualities needed to recognize that one is not good at that task — and if one lacks such knowledge and intelligence, one remains ignorant that one is not good at the task. This includes political judgment.” Essentially, they’re not smart enough to realize they’re dumb.
People have a habit of inventing frictions they will believe wholeheartedly in order to ignore the truth they cannot accept.
Boundaries must be explicitly stated. Want people to respect your boundaries? Explain to them where the line is.
You've become so damaged that when someone tried to give you what you deserve, you have no fucking idea how to respond.